COLUMN: Beyond the Shelter – Why Domestic Violence Awareness Month matters

Every November, communities across Manitoba recognize Domestic Violence Awareness Month. While conversations about family violence become more visible during this time, the reality is that domestic violence affects individuals and families every day of the year. Awareness month gives us an opportunity to bring this issue into the open, challenge stigma, and remind survivors that they are not alone.

At Agape House, we see the need for these conversations firsthand. In 2025, our crisis line received 1,468 calls. In the first six months of 2026 alone, we received 891 calls. Behind each call is a person looking for information, support, safety, or simply someone who will listen. Some people are seeking emergency shelter, while others need counselling, housing support, or help understanding their options. Not everyone who contacts us is ready or able to leave an abusive relationship, but that does not make their need for support any less important.

These numbers also remind us why accessible services matter in southeast Manitoba. Domestic violence is not something that happens somewhere else. It affects people in our own communities—our neighbours, coworkers, friends, and families. Its impacts can extend to children, housing stability, finances, employment, and overall well-being.

Domestic violence is also more than physical violence. It can include emotional abuse, financial control, intimidation, isolation, sexual violence, and coercive control. Because many of these behaviours happen behind closed doors, abuse is not always visible to others.

For people living in rural communities, seeking help can come with additional barriers. Someone may be concerned about privacy in a smaller community, lack transportation, depend financially on their partner, or have limited access to housing and other services. Stigma can add another layer. Survivors may be asked why they stayed, why they did not leave sooner, or why they returned. These questions can unintentionally place responsibility on the person experiencing abuse rather than the person choosing to use violence.

This is why awareness matters. Understanding the realities of domestic violence can help us respond with compassion rather than judgment and make it easier for someone to reach out when they are ready.

As November approaches, there are simple ways our community can take action. Learn about the signs of abuse. Share information about local resources. Participate in awareness campaigns. Support organizations working with survivors. Businesses, workplaces, schools, and community groups can also create opportunities to have these conversations throughout the year.

If someone tells you they are experiencing abuse, listen without judgment. Believe them. Respect their choices and ask what kind of support would be helpful. You do not have to have all the answers—sometimes helping someone connect with the right resource is an important first step.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month is not simply about one month of awareness. It is about building a community where survivors feel safe asking for help and where violence is never normalized or excused.

At Agape House, we are proud to be part of a community that continues to learn, support, and take action. As we head into November, we encourage everyone to consider what taking a stand against domestic violence can look like in their own lives.

If you or someone you know is experiencing family violence, Agape House is here to help. You do not need to be ready to leave to reach out. Call 204-346-0028 or text 204-800-7799.

Lisa Fast is an outreach coordinator.

Agape House provides a safe space and 24/7 support to those experiencing domestic violence in Southeastern Manitoba.